Opening up about your drug or alcohol use can feel overwhelming—but you’re not alone. It’s one of the bravest steps you can take on your recovery journey, and being honest with someone you trust can lift a huge weight off your shoulders.
Whether you’re just starting to make changes or have been thinking about it for a while, telling a loved one can bring support, understanding, and connection.
Find the Right Moment
Timing matters. Try to choose a calm, quiet time where you can talk without being interrupted. Avoid bringing it up during an argument or when emotions are running high. A face-to-face conversation is usually best, as it allows you to explain things more clearly and show that you’re serious.
Why Are You Telling Them?
People may have questions—and that’s okay. Be open about why you’re sharing this now. You might say something like:
“I know I haven’t been myself. I’m ready to make a change and I need your support.”
Let them know you’re taking responsibility and are ready to move forward. Be patient—it may take them time to process everything.
Help Them Understand
Not everyone knows what it’s like to live with drug or alcohol issues. Here are a few ways to help them relate:
- Share your story – How did your use begin? Was it to cope, to feel more confident, to fit in?
- Use relatable examples – Everyone has habits. Ask them to imagine giving up chocolate or social media—it’s not easy. That’s what cravings can feel like.
- Reassure them – Let them know it wasn’t a sudden choice. Most issues with drugs or alcohol build up gradually over time.
Everyone Reacts Differently
Some people might feel relieved to hear the truth. Others might be upset or confused. If they didn’t know you were struggling, they might feel hurt that you kept it from them. That doesn’t mean you were wrong to share—it just means they need time.
Take It at Your Pace
You don’t have to tell everyone, and you don’t have to share everything all at once. Decide who you feel safe talking to and when the time is right. Most importantly, do it for you—because you’re ready to own your story and start building something better.
Support for Your Loved Ones
At Wirral Ways, we’re not just here for you—we’re here for your loved ones too.
- With your consent, they can join your appointments or have separate support.
- We run a loved ones support group where people can connect, share experiences, and learn how to support someone in recovery.
- Our group facilitators have lived experience, so they truly understand what families and friends are going through.
You’ve Already Taken a Big Step
Talking about your drug or alcohol use is hard—but it shows courage and strength. You deserve support, understanding, and a future that feels good.
We’re here to help, every step of the way.